"Now, then: when you look upon your marriage, you are not just looking upon one another (possibly feeling at odds with one another), but upon this third being [the Relationship] which requires the complete attention, all of the wisdom and skills, and the holy prayers and faith of you both...."
"Serving this Relationship, neither partner has to feel that change was imposed upon you; rather, each of you offers your various talents and the best of yourselves to the Relationship. This becomes a willing offering, never fearing that your spouse is 'getting more than he deserves'. Why? Because both of you benefit in the Relationship's good health. Now neither of you must submit humiliatingly to the other; rather, each chooses to serve the third being, the Relationship."